Spring finally sprang, and among many other things, it brought upon us another wedding season. Of course people get married all year long, but the months between April and September are always the most popular for couples to tie the knot.
Right now we are eagerly awaiting what will for sure be the event of the year, the upcoming nuptials of Prince Harry and Meghan Markle, that will take place on May 19th. We have been following the updates on the preparations, and we know all about the date, the programme, the venue, the cake, the invitations...
But to be honest, as much as we are looking forward to see the undoubtedly beautiful gown Meghan Markle will be wearing, what we really are excited about is the bridal party. We can’t wait to set our eyes on the adorable page boys and flower girls walking down the aisle with her. And the fact that in all probability Prince George and Princess Charlotte will serve in the wedding, as thrilling as it is, is not the only reason why.
We at Amaia Kids adore weddings, we delight in the celebration of love and the happiness of the newlyweds, but we have a special predilection for the youngest participants.
For us, one of the most darling moments in the ceremony is when the kids make their appearance. Our hearts melt a bit when we see the gorgeous gaggle of children that compose the bridal party arrive, looking beyond adorable in their matching outfits, ready to act as attendants and taking their duties so seriously. Or at least trying to, because part of the fun is to watch them get distracted…
Of course not all weddings include kids, as it is a very personal choice, but in our opinion they are a sweet addition to the ceremony. They definitely provide an extra cute factor to it, and they never fail to steal our hearts in their lovely attire.
Nevertheless, there are some recommendations to make sure that their participation is a total success.
1- Careful planning… and an open mind
Weddings involve a lot of planning and preparation, and this is no exception. The first thing is to determine who will have the honour of walking down the aisle with the bride. Normally the choice will be obvious, (little nieces, nephews and cousins, as well as family friends) but it is advisable to check with their parents to make sure they are happy with their kids playing a part at the ceremony.
There are no rules about how many children should participate, so it is down to the couple. Having several is good for the little ones' confidence since they feel more comfortable as part of a group, and of course it adds to the whole cuteness. It also might contribute to potential distractions, but that is indeed part of the game.
Because the most important thing to keep in mind is that kids can be unpredictable, and they might not behave exactly the way they were supposed to. Sometimes they may get suddenly shy or the opposite, too excited. We all know that, so there is no need to worry if the little darlings do not exactly follow the script. The guests will be so enchanted by the kids' delightfulness that they will not be bothered at all, on the contrary, they will find it amusingly entertaining!
We always remember the royal wedding of the then Crown Prince of Spain a while ago, when one of the adorable looking page boys (the now King's oldest nephew) kicked one of the flower girls at the altar, in the middle of a ceremony being broadcasted live on television. The memory never fails to bring a smile to our face... and it proves that even the best planned events can present contingencies. More recently, last year we could also see the Duchess of Cambridge with her finger to her lips as she escorted the kids in the bridal party to her sister Pippa Middleton's wedding. Children are children, and we love it this way!
2 - Reporting for duty
As per their actual duties, they basically have to look adorable, smile sweetly and charm everyone.
The flower girls walk right before the bride, sprinkling petals along the way or carrying small posies of flowers. The page boys walk down the aisle hand in hand with the flower girls, looking gorgeous and taking the cute factor to another level.
Sometimes a boy will be asked to carry the wedding bands in a little pillow, thus becoming a ring bearer. Or they might be tasked with holding the bride’s train and keeping it straight, but this train bearer role is becoming less and less frequent.
There are no age limits, but it is advisable to avoid choosing very young kids, as they might be confused or scared. A good compromise is to have the little one dressed as the rest of the bridal party and to decide on the spot whether he or she is ready to walk with them or would rather stay with the parents. This way, the young one can still be part of the ceremony and be included in all the pictures either way.
3- Peace and calm… easy!
Another key advice is to be sure to be patient with the children, no matter what. They might get anxious all of a sudden, notwithstanding how perfectly happy and ready to go they were five minutes earlier.
Kids get affected by the surrounding mood, so try to limit their exposure to the otherwise normal frenziness that precedes the wedding and do your best to make them comfortable and stay calm. Easier said than done, right? But there are some things we can do with this end in view.
Assign them a helper, ideally another member of the wedding party who can keep an eye on them, hang out with them before the ceremony, make sure they behave and even take them outside if they start to cry.
Practice walking down the aisle, if you have a chance, until they are comfortable with it. It also gives them the opportunity to get to know the other children in the bridal party, in case they hadn't met before.
Show them exactly where their parents will be sitting. It is always reassuring for the kids to know where they are and be able to look at them and make eye contact.
Explain what they will be doing and what is expected from them, in an age appropriate way. Talk about this often beforehand, show them pictures of other weddings or read a book about it, so they understand what will be happening and they can share the excitement.
Make sure they use the restroom before the ceremony. It seems quite obvious, but sometimes it gets overlooked with all that is going on.
Have a little treat as a bribery in case they need an extra incentive.
4- Choose the perfect outfit
We at Amaia Kids are proud to offer everything you need for the flower girls and the page boys. Make sure you take a look at our Special Occasion section, and stay tuned for our detailed feature on the most adorable outfits. To be continued!